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Sorry. Not sorry.

Sorry. You've probably heard that females apologise more often than males.

Studies show that on average, women say they're sorry more times in their lives than men do, and that men and women have very different ideas about what type of behaviour actually constitutes an apology-worthy offence.

A study published in Psychological Science (2010) examined how men and women apologise differently, and shows that when men think they've done something wrong, they're just as likely as women to apologise.

However, females have a lower threshold for behaviour they believe constitutes an apology, and will therefore hastily apologise for actions, words or behaviours they inaccurately perceive to have caused offence.

Sorry habits include saying things like, "Sorry I didn't respond to your text message right away," or "I'm sorry I didn't get back to you about that email," โ€œSorry, can I please order when you have a moment?โ€ - all of which may reinforce the notion that you've done something wrong to others.

This in turn can also cause the apologiser to experience excessive guilt, toxic self-blame, and can destroy self-confidence, which could in turn lead to more apologies.

So next time youโ€™re about to say sorry, stop ๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ, reflect ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ, and make sure itโ€™s a sorry thatโ€™s worth saying. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

If itโ€™s not, shelve it. Not sorry. ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ
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